Want to Speak-Listen Up? Anchor your Stress Response to your Value of Caring.

Are you more conscious than the average oyster? I hope so! When a few grains of grit get inside the oyster shell, the oyster doesn’t run and hide from the irritant. Nor does the oyster hire its litigation team or stress management team to spend millions trying to get rid [...]

November 1st, 2019|

Want to Speak-Listen Up? Don’t treat your feelings as Gospel; Learn to Negotiate with them.

If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment. Marcus Aurelius Conflicts, failures and losses at times seem to conspire to ruin us. Yet, as Marcus Aurelius [...]

September 30th, 2019|

Everyone saw the apple fall. Only Newton asked Why.

Being uncertain about the answer to the riddle below may be a pleasant reward-anticipating feeling when you know this will be revealed, but will turn into frustration if the answer is missing. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-QtOcZHcOo Curiosity, the emotion that moved the cat. I wrote a little bit about how my own insatiable curiosity kept [...]

September 6th, 2019|

Business cannot remain as a Bystander in a System that gives them Permission to Be.

British historian Arnold Toynbee concluded his 25-year study of 21 civilisations with the observation that “Great civilizations die from suicide, not by murder.” Toynbee observed that each civilisation—or cultural system—has within itself the seeds of its own change and destruction and that even the most prosperous and sophisticated civilisations are [...]

August 22nd, 2019|

Why Do Challenging Conversations Threaten Our Identity?

Most of my blogs are indexed to the reasons why I provide training for Courageous Conversations but I’ve seldom written directly about Courageous Conversations.  This blog is different. "Tough Conversations", "Challenging Conversations",  "Crucial Conversations", "Difficult Conversations" – there are a multitude of labels that suggest why communication can be fraught [...]

August 5th, 2019|

Want to Innovate, SpeakUP, Disrupt? You need Rebel Talent

This month, I’ve been humbled by being acknowledged by the Think: Act magazine as a Business Disruptor, Rebel WITH a cause and a Constructive non Conformist. What an honour and a privilege to be recognised this way, not only for myself, but for all whistleblowers. Click on the picture to access the [...]

June 27th, 2019|

Tethering Humility To Power

We’ve all encountered at least one. An individual in a position of power, or not, that ‘knows it all’.  They lead over people with the “tacit assumption” that life is fundamentally and always a competition.  That, as leaders, they are being paid for fixing problems rather than for fostering breakthrough [...]

June 2nd, 2019|

How the Dark Side of Charisma silences You

Imagine you’ve been working at a company for six months and you’re given responsibility for a demanding, high-profile project. After months of hard work, you present your ideas to higher-ups. You receive either a positive outcome  - “your project is so interesting to the senior management that you have been [...]

April 25th, 2019|

Rumbling with Vulnerability gets you to Courage

I learn so much when I'm invited to be a speaker by organisations and institutions.  Since I began speaking and training, common questions arise across international borders and cultures.  "Wendy, tell us how to become morally courageous in the moment".  On reflection, it surprises me that there’s an expectation that [...]

March 29th, 2019|

Culture Is What We Should Do. Climate Is What We Can Do

Imagine that you are a rising star at a medium-sized investment bank (B&B), and you are currently facing a decision to choose between loyalty to your roommate or to your company and boss. There exists a cult mentality at B&B in that those who stay at the company accept that [...]

February 28th, 2019|