Wendy

Are you more conscious than the average oyster? I hope so! When a few grains of grit get inside the oyster shell, the oyster doesn’t run and hide from the irritant. Nor does the oyster hire its litigation team or stress management team to spend millions trying to get rid of the irritant.  Instead, the [...]

If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment. Marcus Aurelius Conflicts, failures and losses at times seem to conspire to ruin us. Yet, as Marcus Aurelius observed nearly two millennia ago, [...]

Being uncertain about the answer to the riddle below may be a pleasant reward-anticipating feeling when you know this will be revealed, but will turn into frustration if the answer is missing. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-QtOcZHcOo Curiosity, the emotion that moved the cat. I wrote a little bit about how my own insatiable curiosity kept me alive. New parents learn [...]

British historian Arnold Toynbee concluded his 25-year study of 21 civilisations with the observation that “Great civilizations die from suicide, not by murder.” Toynbee observed that each civilisation—or cultural system—has within itself the seeds of its own change and destruction and that even the most prosperous and sophisticated civilisations are vulnerable to self-inflicted ruin. This [...]

Most of my blogs are indexed to the reasons why I provide training for Courageous Conversations but I’ve seldom written directly about Courageous Conversations.  This blog is different. "Tough Conversations", "Challenging Conversations",  "Crucial Conversations", "Difficult Conversations" – there are a multitude of labels that suggest why communication can be fraught with tension.  I have chosen [...]

This month, I’ve been humbled by being acknowledged by the Think: Act magazine as a Business Disruptor, Rebel WITH a cause and a Constructive non Conformist. What an honour and a privilege to be recognised this way, not only for myself, but for all whistleblowers. Click on the picture to access the .48 second video to find [...]

We’ve all encountered at least one. An individual in a position of power, or not, that ‘knows it all’.  They lead over people with the “tacit assumption” that life is fundamentally and always a competition.  That, as leaders, they are being paid for fixing problems rather than for fostering breakthrough thinking. Between their deep attachment [...]

Imagine you’ve been working at a company for six months and you’re given responsibility for a demanding, high-profile project. After months of hard work, you present your ideas to higher-ups. You receive either a positive outcome  - “your project is so interesting to the senior management that you have been invited to a workshop next [...]

I learn so much when I'm invited to be a speaker by organisations and institutions.  Since I began speaking and training, common questions arise across international borders and cultures.  "Wendy, tell us how to become morally courageous in the moment".  On reflection, it surprises me that there’s an expectation that invoking and nurturing moral courageousness [...]

Imagine that you are a rising star at a medium-sized investment bank (B&B), and you are currently facing a decision to choose between loyalty to your roommate or to your company and boss. There exists a cult mentality at B&B in that those who stay at the company accept that loyalty to the organisation goes [...]